horse that intimidates you or an instructor who humiliates you—and you lose your confidence in your riding abilities. While it may seem like the end of the world, don’t worry. It’s common to lose your confidence, and it doesn’t happen to just riders, either. Losing confidence happens to all kinds of athletes in all kinds of sports. Of course, losing confidence isn’t all that hard. But regaining confidence takes some effort. However, it absolutely can be done.

First of all, let’s talk about some common reasons why riders lose confidence. One of the most common reasons that riders lose confidence is that they push themselves—or someone else pushes them—too fast and too far. When that happens a rider finds herself in uncomfortable and sometimes dangerous situations time after time. It just makes sense that faced with this type of situation, you would lose your confidence.

In order to regain your confidence, the first order of business is to slow down! If you’ve moved too fast and too far, chances are you’ll have to relearn some of your riding skills. Accept that you are going to have to take a few steps back, and put the emphasis on safety.

In order to regain your confidence you are going to need the right allies in your corner. And that first ally is a good instructor. How to find one? Word of mouth is always a great way to find a good instructor. Ask confident and calm riders who they use, and arrange some lessons. Plan on taking weekly lessons for at least six months to a year. It may be unfair, but it takes a lot longer to regain confidence than it does to lose it! It’s important that the instructor you find has good knowledge, excellent teaching skills, and emphasizes safety.

Who is your second ally? Your horse, of course! Make sure your horse is safe and dependable, and is not too advanced for your skill level. If you are an inexperienced rider be sure to ride an experienced horse. The worst combination is a green horse and green rider. This type of combo is sure to result in loss of rider confidence!

Remember, learning to ride should always be fun. If you are feeling scared, humiliated, or just plain out of your league, something is wrong. If you are not comfortable with the level your instructor is asking you to ride at, don’t be afraid to tell her. A good instructor will ask you to work within your comfort level, and will not push you beyond. And if your horse isn’t right for you, you may need to trade him in for a horse more suitable. Working with the right instructor, on the right horse, can help you regain your footing—and your confidence.