I'm a city girl and just moved to the country. The lady next door just moved after many years and gave her horse to the people that I live on their property. Before she moved I would give the horse apples and carrots and I know she grew to know me and realize I loved her. She lived there all these years and the only horse on the property. Now that she moved to our place they have 4 other horses. When I went over to visit her the other horses got angry and kicked her. When she walks out to the pasture near where I live, she's afraid to come by me because she's afraid she might get kicked again. Now she doesn't come near me. I miss her so much and I know she needs love especially now. I did feed the other horses. Was I wrong to do that? Will I ever be able to go to see the horse again. I just don't want her to get hurt because of me.

she's just got to figure out where she is in the hierarchy of the herd. once she and the others figure that out, then you will probably be able to visit with her again. if you had never given the other horses anything, they would probably ignore you and her spending time together. one sure way to get some visiting time with her alone is to kinda drive the other horses away from her when your together. in a little while they will start to steer clear of you when you give them the message. she in turn will also learn that the other horses will leave her alone when your with her. start by walking in with them and carry a treat of some kind for her. when they come up to you just walk on by them. if they follow you stop and just push on there neck or side to get them to move away from you. keep doing it till they decide to leave you alone. they'll tire of it pretty quick and go on about grazing. once they do that approach the one that's your "pick" so to say, and see if you can get her to come to you. then give her the treat as a reward. if the others come up to you during this try to drive them away again. my horse, Cisco, is the bottom rung horse in the group he's in right now. i do this when i go to hang out with him. the other horses steer clear of us when we are together, and even the boss horse will stop all dominant actions toward him when i'm there. cisco seems to enjoy the time just because he can get away from the rest of them, and i also think it's the reason he has never been "buddy sour". he can go with the herd, or go out on his own and never give a problem.

i hope this helps you.

I would stop the hand feeding. Hand feeding treats to horses in a group will start trouble everytime, especially since you are not real horse savvy. You could run the chance of getting in the middle of something and getting hurt. If you want to see her why don't you see if they could separate her out so you can see her. That way you can enjoy each others company in a safe environment. Build a better relationship and then when she is turned back out she would come up to you in the pasture and you would not have to feed her to get her to come over.

Hope everything works out.